How to Get Better at Offering and Receiving Help

Are you tired of doing everything yourself? Do you wish people would give you the help you need? Do you get frustrated when your attempts to help others don’t work? 

Knowing how to extend a helping hand or ask for assistance when needed is one of the best ways to build trusting, collaborative and mutually beneficial relationships with colleagues, clients, family and friends. And yet, for far too many folks, “help fluency” remains elusive.

Go To Help from mother-daughter team Deborah Grayson Riegel and Sophie Riegel is a truly groundbreaking, easy-to-use guide that teaches concrete strategies to help readers get better at offering, asking for and accepting help — and explores the ways in which “help fluency” builds better relationships both professionally and personally.

In Go To Help, readers will learn how to:  

– Offer help that inspires others to learn and grow 

– Overcome emotional barriers to asking for help

– Manage when someone doesn’t accept your help 

– Reject requests when you’re overloaded 

– Ask specifically for the kind of help that’s actually useful 

Plus, Go To Help introduces 31 effective help strategies, along with tips and tools for putting these new approaches to use. 

“Let’s face it, navigating the road ahead of us will require that we know how to offer, ask for and accept help, as we adapt to hybrid work environments and evolving workplace expectations; parent in high-stress situations (while facing everyday parenting challenges); participate in school that looks and feels different; and support our friends and family through change, and change again,” Grayson Riegel says. “This book will help you be more skilled, strategic and selective as you help others, as well as help yourself.”

About the Authors

Deborah Grayson Riegel is a coach, speaker, author and consultant. She is also an instructor of Management Communication at the Wharton School of The University of Pennsylvania, and teaches Leadership Communication for Columbia Business School’s Women in Leadership Program. She is also on the faculty for Duke Corporate Education and regularly writes for Harvard Business Review

Sophie Riegel is a student at Duke University. She is an author, mental health advocate and global speaker who champions and encourages conversations about mental health. 

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